Friday, November 7, 2014

Iiiiiiit's BAAA-AAACK!!!!!!! (Resurrection Blogfest III)

Today is the day! My third bloggiversary! AND my...


YES! Today, participants in this blogfest will BRING OUT THEIR DEAD!

Posts, that it. If you require further elucidation, clicketh hither.

But if you're ready for some reanimated blog posts, read on.

To celebrate my third year of blogging (!!!), I'm resurrecting my Valentine's Day post (published on 2/10/14), in which I wax poetic about "What love is." I was going to bring back a post in which I bitched about crimes against grammar but reckoned that, as an author of romance dark and whimsical, I might be best served by accentuating that which is warm and fuzzy. But if you'd rather read a rant, thither thou goest. Anyway, hope you enjoy, and please do be sure to check out the other participants' resurrected posts (see linky list all the way down). The three qualifying bloggers who'll be selected at random to win either a $20 Amazon Gift Card OR my book and some book swag will be announced on Monday, November 10, 2014 (God willing). (If you're just learning about this blogfest, it's not too late to sign up ~ you've got till 11:59pm on November 7 to do so and follow the rules to qualify!)

And now...onto the revivified post!

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What love is...
By Durdana shoshe (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0
via Wikimedia Commons
In a previous post, I bitched about how ruinous loving is. And it is.

But that's not all it is.

In my late 30s, I began to draw parallels between romantic and paternal love. Not in an Oedipus/Electra kinda way, 'cause that's gross. The love my parents (who are not perfect people) show me and my sis, and even more, the love I feel for my son, is straightforward and manifests in obvious ways:

  1. Love looks out for you, as regards basic needs and comforts (food, rest, shelter, chocolate*).
  2. Love needs to see you well and happy.
  3. Love wants you to feel better ASAFP when you're not well, whether it's from physical, mental, or emotional trauma.
  4. Love shares with you, without conditions or expectations.
  5. Love laughs with you.
  6. Love does for you.
  7. Love accepts the feelings of anger, disappointment, and sadness you engender, but will always want to hold you close again (eventually; but the wait shouldn't be too long).
  8. Love waits for you to get your head out of your ass and apologize for whatever heinous fuckery you've perpetrated.
  9. Love understands that you may never apologize and forgives you anyway.
  10. Love may hurt you, but it'll want to fix that hurt, too, even when it doesn't understand WTF your problem is (see #2).
  11. Love wants to touch you (to the degrees appropriate to your relationship).
  12. Love wants you to want its touch (see parenthetical statement in #11).
  13. Love recognizes and respects that you are your own person.
But the critical factor of real Love: You don't have to work for it, you don't have to earn it; it's just always there for you. Always.

Now, in my early 40s, I feel that's what I should expect, when it comes to romantic love: obvious demonstrations of love that don't demand anything extraordinary of me, and a well of that same feeling within me for the other person, one that never runs dry.

And lots of exhausting, mind-annihilating, earth-shaking, God-revealing sex. Of course.

Maybe romantic love won't happen for me.

But I believe it happens.

Wishing you all Love, now and forever.

*chocolate is totally a basic need.

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  1. I resurrected a Valentine's Day post too! Though mine is about how love can go hideously wrong. Anyway, I love this post. #8 is my favorite on your list. Love must be patient, because I know more than a few people who have their heads permanently lodged inside their rectal cavities. :)

  2. Wow! I think I shall put you forward as the modern day Khalil Gibran. I concur with all your wisdom's words! Would love to enter this challenge but there are currently not enough hours in my days to even breathe properly.

  3. All excellent points, really excellent points. #8 has to be my favorite!

    Well done blogfest, well done choice for a resurrected post!

    Happy blogiversary and thank you for sharing!


  4. Amen!! And chocolate is definitely a basic need.

    Sorry I'm unable to participate this year. I'm sick and under deadline and my kiddos are sick and I'm just overwhelmed beyond belief. But I love this blogfest and tried to give it some twitter love to make up for my absence. Next year, I'm totally in!

  5. Looove it! Especially 8-13. I chose a post about dating myself. Strange to see where I was then and where I am now. Happy to be resurrected a second year in a row!

  6. I plum forgot about this blogfest! Oh well... I didn't do a post. But you put Haddaway's 'What is Love' in my head with your post. lol *bobbing head*

  7. I missed this post the first time around and I'm glad you picked it! It gave me a warm fuzzy feeling inside and a big gut YES! and it's good to get people to feel those things, because by the law of attraction by feeling it, I'm inevitably going to create it.

    Happy birthday Mina's blog!

  8. Happy bloggiversary! This is a sweet post, I'm glad you chose to resurrect it.

  9. Good post to resurrect! Love is all those things and more. I'm sorry I missed seeing this in advance or I would have posted about it on Wednesday.

  10. Haha XD As other people have mentioned, #8 is funny. It really made me laugh! Your post inspires me to hope that we'll find the right types of love one day :3.

  11. I laughed out loud at #8.
    Great post, Mina, even the second time around. :)

    Happy blogiversary!

  12. Very true words of wisdom. I thought I had love with my ex-"fiancé," but ultimately he chose his dysfunctional, emotionally incestuous family over me. Perhaps someday I'll find love again, hopefully with the beautiful younger man of my dreams.

  13. I love this post! :) So true. Congrats on three years! Cheers!


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