Thursday, November 7, 2013

Bringing Back the Dead...

...post, that is.

Hey, y'all, the big day is here! Singing "Happy Bloggiversary" to myself, I celebrate my second year of blogging with my

RESURRECTION
BLOGFEST II!

Not sure what this is all about? Well, click here to learn more! (And if you're reading this before 11:59pm EST on NOV. 7, you can still sign up for it!) (There are, like, PRIZES, and whatnot!)

To sum up, the point of this blog hop is to provide an opportunity for participants to resurrect blog posts from roughly this past year of blogging that they love but didn't get enough attention. Click on the linky-list below to check out all participants' entries.

For my entry, I was torn. Did I want to snark, titillate, or inspire? Well, the snark has already received a good number of views, and the titillating post led to many blushes (I'm guessing), so, since my most recent post was a bit of a downer, I chose to inspire instead. Appearing originally on Thursday, February 28, 2013, I give you...

Writerly Things ~ Making Time

Additional Disclaimer:
Plenty of earthy language follows. Just sayin'.

Dear Reader, I'm ready to bet that at least once in your life you've uttered a sentiment similar to this one: "I'd do {insert super-groovy thing you'd love to do here} if only I had the time." Now, God knows I've experienced phases in which my every day responsibilities to my full-time jobby-job, my son, my parents, even my friends, have overwhelmed me. Everybody wants a piece of me and there's precious little to spare. Yeah, life can suck like that, sometimes.

If, like me, you also battle the demon of depression, then doing that super-groovy thing you love can seem impossible. In part, you feel like when you don't have to do a thing, you just bloody well won't do it, and that's that. You're drained, exhausted. You've got nothing left in you to give, even to yourself. You just can't do it. That is even le suckier, because then you find yourself letting your spare hour/evening/weekend piddle away and guilt floods you, because now  you can do that super-groovy thing, and what the fuck are you doing with this precious gift of time, but a whole lotta nothing???

Well, funk that noise.

First, whether you do or don't suffer from depression, those feelings of guilt are an exaggerated response to that evil little rat-bastard worming his way through your soul and mind and, as such, are pretty useless. Except for making you feel worse about yourself, and who the hell needs that? Pas moi. And pas toi, for that matter. Nobody needs that.

You know what you do need?

You need to do that super-groovy thing you love.

Why do you need to? Because it's medicinal; doing something you love can make you feel better, and then you may want to do more, and feel better still. Because you feeling better will make the people who love you feel better, and then you want to perpetuate that cycle 'cause, you know, you love them. And feeling better is as much a need as food, water, shelter, and Lindt chocolates. (OK, maybe that last one's not a need, but damn; work with me, people.) And, you know, you don't worry too much about finding time to eat, drink, and seek shelter. You do that shit tout de suite because you know you need to. So forget about trying to find time for that super-groovy thing you love; you're going to make time for it.

For me, that super-groovy thing is sex, but since that's not on the table (or on any other piece of furniture, alas), I write. I adore writing. I love my main characters. When I make time to hang out with them, as I've been managing to do more and more, of late, I'm all giddy and infatuated and, frankly, I'm so engrossed in their stories that I've no sense of time passing. The pleasure I derive from writing is just as hot as sex. There, I said it. No, I'm not high. Writing is as good as sex, for me, and if you're a writer, it may be true for you as well, and who the hell doesn't want to make time for sex???

Right; my train of thought just got a wee bit derailed, there. Pardonnez-moi.

Writers, whatever your situation, you can make time for that super-groovy writing you love. Look at your weekly planner, determine how much time you can devote to your writing, and write that jazz down in pen. (Everything's more serious when you write it in pen, ever notice that?) It doesn't have to be a lot of time, but it should be as close to every day as possible. (Ladies taking The Pill: you take that thing on some kinda regular schedule or else the system fails, amiright???) And when that precious time rolls around, you make sure your space for it is set up and just get down to it. Don't turn on the TV (unless you really, truly get into the writing flow when there's background conversation), don't log in to any social media. Just write. Write by hand, if online-goofery's too tempting to resist otherwise. I crank up my favorite tuneage and get cracking. (Duran Duran's got a way of priming my pump.) (So to speak.)

And don't worry about doing it perfectly. Like sex, the pleasure of writing doesn't spring from some flawless ideal; it comes from the sweaty physical contact, the stumbling engagement with the moment, and the breathtaking twists that come along the way to shake, rattle, and roll you. (I know you know what I'm talking about.) I read this nifty piece from Writers Digest today, and the bit about "nothing is ever wasted" really resonated with me. 'Cause it ain't. It's all beautiful. And it's all good. And anyway, we don't need perfection; what we need is to strive.



56 comments:

  1. Such fabulous advice wrapped in a witty package:) And, for the record, sex is my super-groovy thing I love to do when not writing...ironically, I have little to no desire for writing after doing said super-groovy thing. So, if you haven't seen me in awhile, you know what I've been doing. Enough said:)

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    1. Atta girl. The only thing I'm capable of after sex is sleeping. I seem to recall....

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  2. Well, you definitely succeeded in the inspiration department and then you went and outdid yourself with a delicious Duran Duran cherry on top! :D

    Happy Bloggiversary, Mina! I'm sure year number 3 will be even bigger and better for you!

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    1. Thanks, Emma! I will *always* bring the Duran love. *Always* :-D

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  3. I ALMOST forgotted this, but I didn'tn't (that was on purpose. the extra n't that is). Glad I didn'tn't! :)

    I lurve your blog, Mina. Just wanted to share that! :)

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    1. Thanks, Trisha! I dig your blog too, and have made a resolution to do a better job of keeping up with all my fave bloggy pals!

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  4. Hahaha - Love it!
    Now, off to see the titillating post. :P

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    1. Hah! Yes. Did it make you blush????? ;-) (It sometimes makes *me* blush, and I wrote the damned thing.)

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  5. Love it! And I totally feel ya. Writing is how I managed to make it through some pretty hard times in my life...IS how I am making it through a pretty hard time in my life. Your writing/ voice is so fun to read! And and I loved "fumbling engagement" so vulnerable, and so true! Plastering my post up now.

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    1. Thanks, Mac! I enjoyed your post as well. Catchy title, too! :-D

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  6. Haha! I love how you put your funky little wordy launguage in your posts. It makes it fun, witty, and totally relatable!

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    1. Aw, thanks Dani! I notice that even in speech I do weird things with words, a trait which I think I've passed down to my Kid (and from which I now suffer when he bandies about the funky verbiage). :-D

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  7. I never thought of writing and sex in the same context---it isn't always perfect---sweaty physical contact, twists and turns, and at the same time breathtaking---hahaaa---I like that! Great resurrection post, Mina!

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    1. Thanks, Cathrina, so glad you joined us!

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  8. I am very blessed that I get to do the super groovy things I love on a regular basis....except for travel which is financially impossible, and even if we had the money, I'm not sure what to do with my precious furchildren who freak out if I so much as go to the mailbox.

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  9. Your post makes sooo much sense. I usually have a lot of time on my hands in the evenings, but these last few months have been hard and I allow quality 'super groovy' time to just fizzle away. That really annoys and frustrates me but I find myself doing it every time! I need to take back control of this time and just write!!

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    1. Scribbling an "appointment" time in my planner to write really helps me! :-)

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  10. Excellent re-animated post, although it does give the subject kind of a weird added twist: "Writing is like sex, brought back from the dead."

    But on the other hand, it also gives your core message an added kick in the psyche: "Make time to do what you love, NOW, while you still got time to make, 'cause ain't no-one gonna bring yer ass back from the dead to finish that super-groovy thing you'd love to do."

    And, on a side note -- I've never thought of writing as being like sex. Yeah, I guess they both could be considered acts of creation, and I love how you make the comparison, but I don't know if it works for me. I mean I wouldn't want my sexual encounters to be like:

    "OK, we're gonna do this, but first I gotta make a general outline of how I want things to go... So... Let's see,,, We'll need some sort of underlying drama, and there's gotta be conflict, so, uh... LEt me sort of kinda start in this direction... How's this going? Oh wait -- Damn! I gotta go back and change that part. Ugh. I don't like this at all, I'm revising it... Dang, now I'm stuck. 'Scuse me while I get up -- I gotta pace for a while and think of what to do next..."

    Uh... Just not seemin' very sexy to me... ;)

    But I hope your blogfest goes great! I didn't sing up for it because my whole blog got completely rebooted just a few months ago and so there's not really anything that's been around on it long enough to need bringing back.

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    1. Hey, no fair if your comment's funnier than the host's post! ;-) Glad to see *you* back in the 'sphere!

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  11. Never quite saw writing and sex on the same plane! I must be doing something wrong. Give me a minute I have to ask hubby ... Never mind, he'd just say - "huh? Sex, what's sex got to do with writing - oh you want to write a love scene and act it out first?" Saliva already dripping down his chin as he moves closer that wild look in his eyes, his hands reaching for - well - lets not go there. Mental note - don't mention any of this to hubby.
    Okay, NO!
    Writing is definitely better! LOL

    Great resurrection! No hubby, not erection! Sorry, he's got it bad! Or is it just that he needs it bad!!!!
    Me, I've got my writing! :)

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    1. My Goth, what I wouldn't give for a husband upon which to practice love scenes before writing them! Not just any husband, mind you. Not even *your* husband, Yolanda, though I'm sure he's delightful. My very own husband, who'd love and cherish me forever and would eagerly assist in my research. (I have to specify these things in case any benevolent forces in the universe are reading and decide to make it happen for me. You know, just in case.) :-D

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  12. I love the points you made about the importance of making time for what you love, particularly writing. Right now I need to make far more time for schoolwork than writing, and need to spend most of the coming week on finishing my portfolio for one class. I haven't had partnered sex since about December of January, when I finally officially ended my supposed "engagement," and I have had to make time to have sex with myself ever since. My left hand serves me quite well in the absence of a man!

    Being childfree longer than I ever dreamt has been a blessing in disguise, since it means so much extra free time for writing.

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    1. Being child-free certainly leaves one's schedule/headspace available for one's own goals. As to self-satisfying - I've become quite adept at it. Quite. Adept. ;-)

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  13. Writing is definitely therapeutic, as are a few other things you mentioned in this post. Intense and full of energy...way to go, Mina!

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  14. I'm a huge advocate of doing what you love and making time for it no matter what. Sometimes it is hard when everyone's pulling you in a different direction, but me time is important!

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  15. Great post, Mina!

    It's excellent advice to just about anyone, not just writers.

    Thanks for hosting such a fun blogfest and Happy Anniversary!

    Heather

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  16. Thanks for the words of inspiration and putting the Resurrection blog fest together.

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    1. Thanks, Nana, it's been really fun reading stuff by long-time bloggy friends and making new ones, such as yourself! :-)

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  17. What a PERFECT post for me to be reading right now, what with being neck-deep in NaNoWriMo and desperately needing to make the time to do that.
    Thanks so much sharing this and happy anniversay!!!

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    1. Thanks, Beverly; good luck with NaNo!

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  18. Writing and sex are about equal for me in the pleasure I derive from them as well. As such, I make it a point to make the time for both. Although, one thing I haven't done in a long time is go to my favorite coffee shop to write (due to family related time demands), and now you've inspired me to make time for that! Thank you!

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    1. LG, that sounds a delightful way to write! I don't have a place near me, else I'd do the same.

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  19. Feeling like all the energy has been sucked out of my body has been a problem for me of late. And it only gets worse when I forget to do things I've agreed to do (got my resurrection post up late..grrr!) But I have been trying to sleep a little more, eat a little healthier, and allowing myself to do things even if late and not bang my head on the guilt wall. I would love to just lock myself away for like a whole day and just write something fresh and shiny and new. Maybe one day I will have time.

    Congratulations on your second anniversary. I know I didn't follow all the posting rules, but wanted to offer my half cracked support!

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    1. Good for you, for making changes that are good for you! :-) Baby steps to wholeness, I always say... (Well, not always, just when the moment seems right.) ;-)

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  20. Great post! Sex, writing, Italian food, wine are all of my favorite things :) You're right, sometimes it's hard to make time to write with life going on around you, but when I do, which is more often now I'm happy to say, I'm so glad that I did make the time.

    Thanks for putting the blog fest together. Happy writing and sex! LOL

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    1. Debbie, from your computer keyboard to God's eyes!!! :-D

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  21. Testify! Awesome advice. I need to take a hefty dose of it myself.

    Thanks for setting up suck a fantastic blogfest!

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    1. "Testify!" LOL, that cracked me up. :-D

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  22. When you wrote: "I'd do..." you meant a thing or an activity. I thought you meant a person. Now we know where MY mind is at.

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  23. Hi Mina,

    Yes, finally, at last, the climax of the night has reached your way. Time for a comment from me, yes me, shy and humble me.

    Indeed, I have severe depression. I do my best to live with, rather than suffer from my depression. Writing is therapy and you sure know that. Writing is passion and your words speak of this. I do know that writing doesn't have to be done with unwarranted pressure. Writing performance doesn't have to be measured, so to speak. Congrats on your second anniversary of blogging, Mina.

    You know, even though I hate blogfests, I'm always in the background trying to be of support. Well done and with that, I'm going to check out my occasional furniture. What it is at other times, I've no idea.

    Hugs n'stuff,

    Gary :)

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    1. Thanks for your (continued) support, of the bloggy and emotional varieties, my brother. <3

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  24. I'm stopping by again to let you know that I featured you in the Oh, How I Miss You Blogfest!

    http://lgkeltner.blogspot.com/2013/11/the-second-annual-oh-how-i-miss-you.html

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  25. Thanks so much for reviving this post, Mina, for your blog hop. Wow! You have managed to inspire as well as inform others about an aspect of mental health not well understood, or truth be told, tolerated. Good for you! BTW, I LOVE the notion of the blog hop's goal of bringing back blogs that should have had more attention paid to them. You go, Girl!

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  26. Thanks so much for reviving this post, Mina, for your blog hop. Wow! You have managed to inspire as well as inform others about an aspect of mental health not well understood, or truth be told, tolerated. Good for you! BTW, I LOVE the notion of the blog hop's goal of bringing back blogs that should have had more attention paid to them. You go, Girl!

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  27. Thanks for your kind words, Angelica! I enjoy trotting things out for a bit more love...uh...you know what I mean. :-D

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  28. I remember this one and it's just as funny now as it was then! Your blog hop is going great!! I've had a blast reading the "resurrected" posts. Have a lovely weekend, Mina. :-)

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  29. Funny and witty, a worthy resurrection that gave me two smiles and a chuckle. Thanks Mina

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  30. Thanks so much, Lexa and Narrator! :-)

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  31. Excellent post! As someone who fights depression, I definitely agreed with much of what you said. Clever wordage, as well.

    The Warrior Muse

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    1. Ack, sorry I only saw this now! Thanks, Shannon, and good mental health HUGS to you, girl! ((((((((((SHANNON))))))))))

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